Struggles at work.

Well this week has been a frustrating week at work. I’ve been in my position about a year and with the company about two years.

Until very recently I had kept to myself and literally talked to noone. However a co-worker actually went out of her way to have a conversation with me and since then I’ve opened up and talked to mostly everyone in my region. I work a desk job in a cubicle 8 hours a day. Work is slow right now and we’ve been running out of work before noon most days. When this happensost people just chat, I usually play a game on my phone or watch a TV show or something to kill the time.

Well since it’s January a lot of people on my region have started this weight loss club. Look, if that’s what you want to do and it works for you that’s great, but, it’s just not my thing and when you look at it from a different perspective the discussion sounds so toxic. Listening to women go on about how they “need” to loose weight and worrying about sabatoging each other with tempting foods. Normally I’d have my ear buds in and tune them out, but then I started thinking..

What about my journey? MY feelings.. MY perspective. Or anyone else’s for that matter? Why should they have to listen to these statements when it’s degrading to someone who is just trying to love who they are. Not to mention it could be triggering for someone who may have a history of eating disorders or someone who is self conscious about being over weight, or someone who feels guilty they aren’t exercising. The list goes on.

I went to my gal pal, the only woman I would trust with any thoughts I have, and just mentioned that those people should just be mindful of those around them. She came walking over to my desk to tell me that I’m absolutely right. I kept apologizing and said that I didn’t want to come off as petty and she said it’s not silly or stupid to feel that way.

I felt good. It was so nice to have my feelings validated. She mentioned something to our region manager, however she is part of the club, so nothing really was done about it.

I figured nothing would come off it which is why I didn’t go straight to my manager in the first place. But sometimes just saying your two cents to someone who might understand can alleviate some anxiety and frustration with don’t talk in the workplace. So my advice is to not be afraid to voice how you feel. In the end at least you can say you tried.❤️